How to Cope Emotionally with a Miscarriage

By Erica Patino
Reviewed by Jessie Everts, Ph.D.
October 10, 2022

Miscarriage—the loss of a pregnancy before 20 weeks of gestation—happens in about 10% of people who know they’re pregnant, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and to many others who never knew they were pregnant. If that information comes as a surprise, it’s likely because the experience often goes undiscussed.

“Miscarriage is one of the most common and least talked-about traumas we experience,” says Kathy Nickerson, Ph.D., a marriage counselor and therapist in Lake Forest, California. And it can be a difficult one to endure.

There’s No One Way to Feel After a Miscarriage

Because everyone is different, there’s a wide range of emotional reactions that can arise after a miscarriage. “After experiencing this trauma, you might feel any number of things, depending on the length of your pregnancy, your pregnancy experience, the hopes and dreams you had for your child, and your relationship,” Nickerson says.