5 Tips for Being a Better LGBTQ+ Ally to Friends and Family

By Matt Wisner
June 15, 2022

My mom cried when I came out to her during my freshman year of college. Her tears weren't because she was upset that her son was gay; instead, she was angry that she was so blindsided.

My mom had always been proud that we were so close, and of how well she understood me. She saw it as a betrayal that I was holding such an important part of myself close to my chest.

The truth is that regardless of how good her intentions were, I felt that my mom, like a lot of older people, hadn't yet thought of being gay as normal or ordinary like young people often do. And that felt isolating. I knew that, as much as she wanted to be caring and supportive, she didn't necessarily know the best way to do that.